3 Tips To Enjoy The Recovery Journey

Written by Shawn Bonneteau

August 14, 2019

People running to enjoy the day
When we begin to enjoy our journey it sparks a fire inside us that can drive us to truly live every day. It brings on a sense of joy, peace, excitement, and passion that helps us see every day as an opportunity rather than a challenge.
 
I love this quote as it rings so true: “Maturity happens when we choose to live in reality”.
 
What may be holding one back from enjoying the journey to quitting porn?
 
* No “why” – Lacking a strong desire and reason to quit
* Fear – Lacking a game plan and running blindly towards a goal
* Anxiety – Letting doubts overwhelm you
* Bad habits – Letting these dictate your actions 
* Bad Association – Being around bad influences
* Faulty Beliefs – Letting lies consume you
* Poor Health – Mind, spirit, and body
* Negative thoughts – Giving into your default
* No Communication – Keeping things to yourself
* Lack of support – Trying to fight this battle on your own
* No Game plan – Wandering into battle without prep
Here are 3 ways to start enjoying the journey to quitting porn:
1. Have a big reason “why”:
There is nothing more fun than pursuing something bigger than you… Anything that goes against the grain and against the path of least resistance will always take a strong reason! Some questions that may help you discover your “why”:
 
* Why would you quit porn for yourself?
* Why would you quit porn for someone else?
* Why does quitting porn matter to you?
* What will change when you are porn free directly and indirectly?
  
2. Have a Game Plan
If you want to feel confident in this fight then it is time to equip yourself! I see a lot of people walking in fear of relapsing because they don’t know how to combat the temptations when they come. To feel bullet proof in your day to day fight, do these:
* Write down what triggers you – Get very specific here (Places, situations, personalities, body parts, websites, smells, fetishes, memories, words, etc.) You can call this your “Trigger Template”
           
* Keep a log of your temptations when they come – Use your phone or have a pen and notepad handy so you can jot down some details of each situation. (Ex. “5:30 pm at the mall… Feeling tempted by the girl behind the till at the clothing store. I had a frustrating day and was seeking pleasure. She was blonde, tall, and had a nice perfume on)  
 
* Have a few people you can call – We call these “accountability partners”… Choose a few people who you trust, believe, and want to follow through for. If you communicate with them throughout your days you will notice greater confidence, attitude, and desire to stay pure.
 
Get some healthy habits in your life – What do you enjoy doing that lights you up with passion, energy, and a zest for life? Start putting more time into that! When we are doing what we are meant to do, we start to turn away from unhealthy habits. Have you ever started going to the gym and at the same time, had a stronger desire to eat healthy?
 
Have a plan of action – Planning ahead and being proactive with your triggers is vital to enjoying the journey to freedom. If you can be sure of yourself when temptation comes, you will set yourself up to limit the anxiety and fear of quitting… this alone creates an attitude that is free to enjoy your life much more. Some questions to ask yourself to start setting up a game-plan maybe – What will you do when it happens? Who can you call? Where can you go?

There is nothing more fun than pursuing something bigger than you… Anything that goes against the grain and against the path of least resistance will always take a strong reason! Some questions that may help you discover your “why”:

3. Get into community
Ted Roberts says “We get hurt in community and we get healed in the community”… Getting around people who are at the beginning of their journey, who are in the same fight as you, and who is totally free from porn is going to create a new sense of passion in you. This is going to give you a sense of life when you can relate to others, be encouraged, and ask for help. This is vital and one of the most important things to have in your life each and every week – You will start to crave the community as it is so life-giving, you won’t want to miss out!

Maturity happens when we choose to live in reality

What may be holding one back from enjoying the journey to quitting porn?

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