Understanding My Wife’s Pain & How to Rebuild Trust After Porn Addiction

Written by Shawn Bonneteau
September 29, 2022

Are there some people in your life that you have really hurt by what you have done because of your porn addiction? Do you want to get to the bottom of understanding your wife’s pain through my experience?
Understanding My Wife’s Pain
* I realized that feelings follow actions – When she was angry, sad, or avoiding me, I decided to put into practice one challenging quote I had heard before “Feelings follow actions”. So what does that mean? It means that I would be kind, I would help, I would love, I would do whatever my emotions didn’t really want to do… Amazingly, I always felt better and I know it was vital in her to see me truly change and rebuilding trust.
*Learn why betrayal can cause trauma – healthline.com
How to start rebuilding trust after pornography addiction
There is something called “self-care” in the world of recovery and it may very well be the thing keeping you from giving recovery your all and allSelf-care is often left out because one may feel as if they don’t “deserve” it. Or maybe they feel they don’t need it…
How did I rely on God?
Everyone has a different story but I truly believe these can be put into practice by anyone!
-Take ownership today for your struggle
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I stopped making excuses – I knew I had messed up… Obviously. I had to take full ownership and admit it was 100% my problem and my job to fix it. I needed to quit pornography and become compassionate and curious to understand my wife’s pain.
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