Blogs For Compulsive Porn Use

Why Sexual Triggers Feel So Powerful: What Your Heart Is Trying to Tell You This article comes from my conversation with Drew Boa on the Secret Habit Podcast. We explored why sexual triggers can feel so powerful, what they may reveal about the inner world, and why...

Heart Hunger: Why Porn Is Often a Symptom of a Deeper Need This article is adapted from my conversation on the Husband Material Podcast with Drew Boa. We talked about heart hunger, porn recovery, emotional needs, formative wounds, regulation, and why awareness can...

Nick Stumbo of Pure Desire explains why recovery requires more than trying harder, and why having a personal plan, supportive community, and experienced help can change everything. Relapse Prevention Starts Before the Temptation One of the biggest mistakes I see men...

How a Dopamine Reset After Porn Actually Works A lot of men start recovery thinking they just need more discipline. More willpower. More accountability. But then something happens that catches them off guard. Instead of immediately feeling clear, energized and...

Why Quitting Porn Feels So Difficult for Many Men A lot of men ask the question, “Why is quitting porn so hard?” And honestly, I think most guys are asking the wrong question. Because the reality is, you’re not just trying to stop watching porn. You're trying to...

Why Porn Brain Fog Happens During Porn Recovery Nobody likes to starve. It not only feels terrible inside the stomach, but it wages war on the mind. What if I told you the experience is similar when you’re trying to quit pornography and find sobriety and freedom over...

Why Porn Keeps Pulling You Back Your porn struggle isn’t random.There’s a reason you keep going back — and understanding the pattern changes everything. Every single day, I have guys telling me, “I hate watching porn. The shame I feel afterwards is ruining me. I know...

How Self-Care Helps Men Quit Porn and Recover Faster Do you ever feel like you’re just throwing mud against the wall, hoping something will finally stick? This is exactly what causes recovery burnout and a sense of helplessness. And these are what cause solid, smart,...

Sexual triggers are a common part of the struggle with pornography, but understanding what happens beneath those triggers can be an important part of changing your patterns. Many men don't understand why certain situations affect them so strongly or how to respond...

So many men that I know have had a poor experience when it comes to porn addiction recovery groups. It's not that the group was “bad”, but it just felt “off”. Often I hear about a sense of stagnation in the growth of the participants and leaders and a posture of...

Inner child healing has become a really popular concept of late. Just recently, I became an Inner Child Recovery Specialist. It's becoming so popular because it gives people a practical way to understand how earlier experiences can continue to influence their...

A perspective for dads from a dad It has become pretty mainstream news that porn addiction affects your well-being. The issue used to be strictly seen as a religious concern, but over the years, neuroscience and many secular sources have proven otherwise. This means...

I can't stop watching porn... Where do I find porn addiction online accountability partners? Finding accountability partners for porn addiction recovery can feel arduous. Regardless if it's online or in person, it's never easy to open up about what you’re going...

What to do and not do when dating someone addicted to porn Getting into a relationship only to find out that he struggles with porn can be devastating. On one hand, you want to assume the best, support him and be strong… but on the other hand, you feel angry,...

What to expect in the first 90 days after quitting porn Most men today are completely lost when it comes to healing from porn. They’re left to the white knuckle, manage their lust, and throw mud against the wall hoping something will finally work. The reality is that...

What Is the definition of Porn Addiction and How Can I Tell If I Have It? In the past, it was widely believed that porn addiction wasn’t real; that it was just a myth made up by moralists trying to control people’s behavior. However, more and more studies have shown...

What are the benefits when you quit porn? When you’re addicted to porn, it can be easy to overlook the negative impact that it’s having on your life. As you quit porn, however, you’ll start to notice just how many benefits quitting porn has brought into your life,...

When you’re trying to break free from porn and the shame that goes with it, having an accountability partner can make all the difference in your success or failure. Your partner doesn’t need to be your pastor or someone in your church, but if you can find one there,...

If you’re addicted to porn and masturbation, then you may not be able to enjoy sex with your partner as you used to before you became addicted. Perhaps your sex drive isn’t very strong and you can’t get an erection, or maybe your preoccupation with porn and...

You will learn about Shawn's story - one of addiction to porn, sex, and masturbation, ultimately the pursuit of acceptance, or so he thought. Through his story of failure and success, you can learn how to stop porn addiction from having an effect on your life. He...

How to stop porn from affecting my life, when my core beliefs are rotten? Faulty Core Beliefs are like the roots of a tree that produces rotten fruit... The roots dictate the quality of fruit. Sadly, our belief system is developed in our formative years of life,...

Are there some people in your life that you have really hurt by what you have done because of your porn addiction? Do you want to get to the bottom of understanding your wife's pain through my experience?  Are you feeling like you let your spouse down? God down?...

Who is your inner critic? When watching a movie that is narrated (here, we will refer to a negative narrator as an inner critic), sometimes the narration is of what’s going on inside the main character’s head. When this happens,  we get two different experiences...

Victory over porn addiction amidst a challenging season Are you struggling from a recent loss due to COVID-19? I imagine you have lost something in one way or another, and I know it can be a tough pill to swallow. If you are one of the many who are without a job and...

Porn and Stress: What's Happening? It’s hard to escape the constant intake of COVID-19 updates, government decisions, and precautions we are supposed to take… TV, Social Media, News apps, Radio, etc, all offer us what we do need to know, but they also offer us...

Are you asking yourself “how do I stop watching porn?” If your work has transitioned to a home office, you may be waking up with new struggles that you have never experienced before… One of those struggles is likely the temptation to numb, and one of the “go-to”...

Are You Relapsing With Porn? Covid-19 may be part of the problem Written by Shawn Bonneteau March 24, 2020 Relapsing with porn has a lot to do with stress Like most of us, COVID-19 has caused some tremendous change in our everyday life. You may be feeling emotions,...

Freedom from porn is so much more than just sobriety... There is a major difference between one who has “sobriety” and one who is experiencing health and freedom from porn. Example #1: The “Dry Drunk” is the one who has recovered because he found sobriety:  This...

Would you believe that taking care of yourself was a crucial step in lasting freedom from porn? We all have God-given passions and talents to be used. Personally, I feel much better when I spend time doing what I love to do. Therefore, wouldn’t it be wise if we...

Are you dating a girl that you love but are worried that your porn addiction will ruin the relationship? Do you want to quit porn but feel overwhelmed with how? Are you married? Click here: My wife caught me watching porn... What do I do? Dating can be a thrilling...

I want to bring HOPE to those who: 1. Currently, have porn affecting their marriage - The abuser could be you or your spouse... regardless of who it is, there is hope for you! I have personally been the abuser and I watched how my Wife handled my addiction with such...

You can enjoy the recovery journey to quitting porn! When we believe we can enjoy the journey to quitting porn, masturbation, and other forms of unwanted sexual behaviors, it helps us focus on the present moment and not tomorrow. Furthermore, when one is focused on...